What’s in an Identity?

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We all have ways of identifying ourselves. It’s how we show up in the world. It’s where we find comfort and purpose. I am this, I am that. It helps us to know ourselves and to give shape to our lives.

But what happens when those identities get stripped away or are out of line with what we want in life? I spoke with Hollie Mann, who just left a prominent career in academia to be a full-time stay-at-home mom to two little boys. She talked about being excited to share this time with her kids, but also how she already misses the mental rigor of teaching at a college level. She’s also a bi-sexual woman living in a monogamous relationship with a man. While she loves him deeply, she misses the sexual connection to women and feels occasional emptiness.

I think we can all relate to being at odds with our identities, whether it’s in the bedroom or the workplace. Something just feels off. The conversation with Hollie explored the gifts and the frustrations of being somewhat stuck in the middle of who we are and who we want to be.

Listen to the conversation with Hollie. As always, let me know what you think.

Love,
Abby

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  • Elizabeth Mattson O’Rourke
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    Hey Abby!
    Thank you for allowing me into your intimate conversation with your dear friend, Holly. As you know I am also a professional turned stay-at-home mom. Your conversation resounded with me. I feel like I just sat down to a chat over coffee with two brilliant, open women! I loved it!

    • Abby Slate
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      Cisse! Yes, sister. You can definitely relate to that. I’d love to hear more about what resonated with you. I also love that you felt connected to the conversation – I love the comparison to sitting down over coffee. That’s exactly the kind of environment I’m trying to create! Would you consider subscribing to the podcast and also leaving a 5-star review so other people can find us on iTunes? http://www.barenakedtruth.com/review

      Love you so much!
      Abby

  • Jenny Commins
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    Truly enjoyed listening to this. I was a student of Hollie’s – a rather dedicated one – and I literally spit out my coffee laughing because I always assumed that the cup she was clutching while teaching held some kind of tea. I’m not a tea drinker, either. Maybe you have to achieve video feed to fully appreciate this, but Hollie is this petite radiant HUGE presence – she’s the person everyone wants to be with her ability to run some 900 miles at altitude while doting on her boys and blending a family and maintaining an impressive academic career and 2x weekly packed yoga classes with her stunning effortless but not above putting effort into it appearance. I had no idea about her sexuality, not that I would have cared then or now, but it made the conversation all the more fascinating. For what it’s worth, in my opinion, the bare naked truth about Hollie is her ability to make everyone around her feel a little more comfortable, a little more settled, a little more beautiful, and a little more – yes- centered, in their own skin and that peace gives a person freedom. It’s a gift. Great interview, felt like having coffee (!) with friends when one friend gets up the courage to ask the questions you’ve always wondered about.

    • Abby Slate
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      Jenny, thank you so much for listening and for sharing your deeply accurate insights into Hollie. She is truly an amazing woman. I love that you connected with the show and my interviewing style. It was definitely my intention to create a space that feels inclusive to everyone listening. I hope you’ll consider subscribing – we have a lot of great interviews coming up! Would you also consider leaving a 5-star review so people can find us on iTunes? You can access it here: http://www.barenakedtruth.com/review Thank you again. Love the feedback. Reach out any time!

      Love,
      Abby

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