Sex is one of my favorite topics. It’s also one that triggers me big time. I spent many years in a sexless marriage, and when I came out of it I was starved for affection. While I’ve found deep passion and intimacy in my new relationship, the demons of “you’re not enough” still chase me. Some days they catch me.
My conversation with sex and relationship coach Emunah Malinovitz was both enlightening and maddening. We talked about what it means to slow way down and to enjoy feel every moment intensely. And for me, that requires vulnerability. Yuck. She shared techniques she uses to help women and couples reach new heights of ecstasy, and she believes that every woman is capable of multiple orgasms. Trigger.
I think that sex has the power to take us to deep places within ourselves that we can’t otherwise access. It touches the most tender places in our bodies and hearts. And when we go there, it can be beautiful and new or it can be scary and shaky. It’s sort of like our genitals are Pandora’s box. Once opened, it can’t be shut. And what is unleashed in that process has the power to transform or to shatter.
But I’m still eternally curious about just how far I can go, how much I can open and receive love. Conversations like these, while uncomfortable to have or hear, are important because they shine on a light on a potent source of our power. It can be the key to madness, but it can also unlock a new freedom. And I’m definitely down for multiple orgasms.
Listen to the conversation with Emunah. And, as always, let me know what you think.